An Unexpected Lesson – right in the middle of a busy day

There is something wonderful that we have seemingly lost in our generation of fast-moving, high-tech, answers at your finger tips. 

Over the weekend Ronan and I went for a walk into The Village (a little shopping district a few block from our house) so I could run some errands and we had a very sweet encounter with a perfect stranger.  While we waited for my coffee order to come up I noticed two elderly gentlemen sitting at a little table chatting over their steaming mugs.  One of the men looked over and smiled so big at Ronan it made me instantly smile back. 

He looked up at me and asked, “is his name Billy?” I chuckled inside wondering if he thought we were someone he knew or if he just wanted to spark a conversation.  

“No, his name is Ronan” I replied

“Roman?”

“No, Ronan  – R-o-n (like November) -a -n” 

“Ahhh, Ronan!”  He sat back and smiled, looked over at his friend a moment, then turned back to us.  I could tell he was thinking and had more to say so I waited and he finally leaned forward and started reciting a line from some beautiful piece of literature.  I didn’t quite catch all that he said but I did hear that the quote ended with “to meet upon Ronan’s Rill”.  It sounded like old English poetry, and it was beautiful.  The man made sure to tell me that a Rill was a river, I was grateful for the explanaton because I had never heard the word.  Then he went on to explain that this was a line from Sir Walter Scott’s novel Ivanhoe. 

I was so touched that this total stranger would think to stop and recall this line and share it simply because it mentioned my son’s name.  I thanked him and made sure to tell him how much I appreciated his thoughtfulness.  This experience stayed with me for the rest of the afternoon.  Warm fuzzies for sure!  It also got me researching Sir Walter Scott, his novel Ivanhoe, and his other writings.  I even found that he actually wrote a completely separate novel called St. Ronan’s Well.   (**warning – random tangent –  This made me smile and give myself a nice little pat on the back.  In all the research we did in choosing a name for Ronan I never thought to check if it was a saint’s name.  My dad always had a thing with making sure we all had saint’s names.  The only reason my mom could name me Jennifer is because it is a derivitive of Genevieve)

This kind of thing just doesn’t happen anymore.  People in our generation today would not stop and think of a specific line within a famous piece of literature that contained the name of a baby they just met.  The closest I could see happening would be to Google the name and maybe share if they found someone famous or notable with the same name.   And that just doesn’t have the same effect. 

Now I’m regretting that I was so taken aback by this man’s actions that I didn’t even bother to ask him his name, or share my own.  So what have I learned from this?

1.  Slow down and pay attention to the people around you.  You never know when a total stranger can brighten your day – if you just stop and give them the chance to do it.

2.  I really need to catch up on my reading!  I love to read and I don’t remember the last time I sat down to read.  

            2b – I should start by reading some of those legendary pieces of literature that most people read in high school or college.  Even if I did read them back then I didn’t appreciate what I was reading.

3.  The older generations of people in our world have some wonderful things to offer and I need to get better at being patient and open to listening to them.  Too many times I get so caught up in my own life and the things I’m trying to get done that I just breeze past or hurry to get off the phone with the older, and wiser, people in my life.  They may move at a slower pace but that is okay, and probably better in some circumstances!

Adding a little Green

It’s pretty common knowledge now that October is Breast Cancer Awareness month and you will see pink popping out all over the place for the next few weeks.  There will be more people wearing pink ribbons, clothes, adding pink scarves or other accessories, pizza boxes are pink, and even the NFL supports the cause by having the players wear pops of bright pink while they play.  It is everywhere and it warms my heart to see this kind of support to help a cause.  I’ve had friends and family battle breast cancer, some have beat it and others were not as lucky.   For many years I’ve worn my pink and done what I can to support this effort in raising awareness for breast cancer.

This year I will be adding a little green to my October in support of National Dwarfism Awareness Month.  Here is a little information courtesy of the LIttle People of America – http://www.lpaonline.org

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October has been declared National Dwarfism Awareness Month. Little People of America (LPA) is a national support organization for people with dwarfism and their families. LPA provides peer, parent and medical support for the dwarfism community.

  • There are over 200 distinct forms of dwarfism and skeletal dysplasias.
  • People with dwarfism are generally not taller than 4′ 10″ at adult height.  The typical height range is 2’8″ to 4’5″.
  • Eighty percent of people with dwarfism have average-height parents and siblings.
  • There are an estimated 30,000 people in the United States and 651,000 internationally with a type of dwarfism.
  • In July 2009 the word “midget” was declared inappropriate and offensive. Preferable terms are: having dwarfism, short stature, little person, lp, and the medical terminology use of dwarf.  A person’s name is always the most preferred.
  • LPA has registered a complaint with the FCC over the use of the “m” word.  Our goal is to raise awareness around the offensive impact of the word in order to eliminate its use in media, popular culture and in everyday language.
  • LPA has 6500 members across the United States and includes 70 chapters active in all 50 states.
  • Skeletal Dysplasias affect bone growth, but generally do not affect cognitive abilities.
  • LPA hosts an annual national conference each July which draws 2500 attendees for a week of activities, including educational and medical workshops, sports, and social networking and events.

  The National Dwarfism Awareness Month program is dedicated to increasing public knowledge about people with dwarfism. 

For more information about National Dwarfism Awareness Month, please visit www.lpaonline.org or call 1-888-LPA-2001.  Events supporting National Dwarfism Awareness Month will be occurring across the U.S. throughout the month of October.

Last year I learned about Dwarfism Awareness Month shortly after Ronan was born.  I thought it was so lucky and fun for Ronan to have an October birthday!  There was so much I didn’t know about dwarfism.  Really, the only thing I knew about it at all was that there were people who were affected.

I never gave it much thought, I mean honestly, I’m one of the shortest people in my family and I’m six feet tall.  Dwarfism was so far from my realm of thought.  I had no idea that it would be possible for us to have a child with dwarfism mainly because of a lack of awareness on the topic.  Then this amazing little boy came into our world and opened my eyes and my heart to this community.  I’m so thankful!!  What a wonderful group of people to know and learn from!  da hands

So now, I will be wearing my green right along with my pink for October and spreading the word wherever I can.  I hope that you will join me.  Add some green to your October and tell people why are doing it!